Another vent

Not really a vent. I am too tired to be venting today.

For months we have suspected that our youngest has been living with her boyfriend. She never said anything but he was always there and we just never asked. We were waiting on her to tell us. She finally did today. I was not surprised and not really angry but upset because it goes against what I feel is right but I have told her it is her life and I will love her no matter what.`
Any mistakes she makes now are her mistakes and she will have to deal with them.

My husband was ready to disown her but I think it was the typical fathers reaction to the fact that his baby daughter is a woman now and he is up set with what she is doing but he will come to grips with it.

But why does this bother us so much now that we know about it? I think it took alot of nerve for her to come and tell us about it. I meant that in the best way. I think she was scared that we were going to disown her or whatever and she was already rejected by one set of parents. What would it do to her to be rejected by us because she is in love and thinking with her heart instead of her head?

Sometimes I think he is too protective of her and just has to know when to let go. I think our kids are always going to do things we may not agree with as long as we are alive but there comes a point where we just have to say, you know what , it is your life, kids, you live it. We have done what we can....

It does not help that I feel like I am being pulled in two different directions either. I can see where she is coming from and understand his feelings too. Still, he needs to let go.....