The Meanderings of A country housewife and mother.
Tuesday, January 31, 2006
Monday, January 30, 2006
adoption..........
was talking with some friends today about adoption. Some of the women said they could never adopt a child because they did not think they could love it as much as their own child. This is fair enough. She was honest. Some people really feel that way so they should not adopt.Another one said she could not adopt because she was afraid the birth mother or father would change thier minds. They also felt the children would go back to their parents when they grew older.
You know, giving up a baby has got to be the hardest thing any woman has to do. It takes a strong woman to put her baby's needs ahead of her own and that is what most women do when they put their baby up for adoption. They are thinking of the child and that is the most important thing in the world as far as I am concerned. My children were not given up by their parents. Their parents had their rights removed from them by the state. Since we were older when we adopted we knew we stood a better chance of adopting that way.
Of course those kids come with problems. I have one which is biracial and that presents it's own brand of problems from the bigots on all sides of the issue and another has other problems which we have had to deal with but we love them and there is no way I could love them more if they were my own.
As for them going back to their parents when they are older, I am all for kids doing that because no one will ever be satisfied unless they know their roots. I have told both of mine that if they do want to do that, I would be in favor of and not to worry about hurting me. So far, neither has wanted to do it.
Why do I say that? I was not adopted but I was raised in a foster home by a wonderful woman. When I was 19 I met my mother. It was not til then that I felt complete. She could answer my questions and I had aunts and uncles I could relate to. For the first time in my life I could look family members and think, gee, I look like that person or that person is one I can relate on many levels simply because she is my cousin. That is why I try to make sure my daughters are in contact with the siblings who want to be in contact with them. We even plan events in the summer so we can do things with them. We meet with the parents and let the girls take of shopping and do things on their own.
One woman said she was afraid if she adopted one she could not handle the dating thing cause they might date a brother or sister. Well, my youngest has 19 siblings and we have not met them all. The other has about 16 with all the moms, dads and step dads. When it came time for the dating period my youngest my youngest was a little concerned about it but I just told her that if she met a boy who was adopted we could check into his background and talk to his parents before they would be allowed to go out but I never really worried alot about it. To me that was just a small worry and if you thought that you would not adopt a child because of it, you are better off not adopting.
I love these girls. I would not go back to being without them for anything. No matter what they do, they are mine.
You know, giving up a baby has got to be the hardest thing any woman has to do. It takes a strong woman to put her baby's needs ahead of her own and that is what most women do when they put their baby up for adoption. They are thinking of the child and that is the most important thing in the world as far as I am concerned. My children were not given up by their parents. Their parents had their rights removed from them by the state. Since we were older when we adopted we knew we stood a better chance of adopting that way.
Of course those kids come with problems. I have one which is biracial and that presents it's own brand of problems from the bigots on all sides of the issue and another has other problems which we have had to deal with but we love them and there is no way I could love them more if they were my own.
As for them going back to their parents when they are older, I am all for kids doing that because no one will ever be satisfied unless they know their roots. I have told both of mine that if they do want to do that, I would be in favor of and not to worry about hurting me. So far, neither has wanted to do it.
Why do I say that? I was not adopted but I was raised in a foster home by a wonderful woman. When I was 19 I met my mother. It was not til then that I felt complete. She could answer my questions and I had aunts and uncles I could relate to. For the first time in my life I could look family members and think, gee, I look like that person or that person is one I can relate on many levels simply because she is my cousin. That is why I try to make sure my daughters are in contact with the siblings who want to be in contact with them. We even plan events in the summer so we can do things with them. We meet with the parents and let the girls take of shopping and do things on their own.
One woman said she was afraid if she adopted one she could not handle the dating thing cause they might date a brother or sister. Well, my youngest has 19 siblings and we have not met them all. The other has about 16 with all the moms, dads and step dads. When it came time for the dating period my youngest my youngest was a little concerned about it but I just told her that if she met a boy who was adopted we could check into his background and talk to his parents before they would be allowed to go out but I never really worried alot about it. To me that was just a small worry and if you thought that you would not adopt a child because of it, you are better off not adopting.
I love these girls. I would not go back to being without them for anything. No matter what they do, they are mine.
Saturday, January 28, 2006
age differences........
While checking out some of the other blogs I came across some that were written by very young women. I thought, now what do I have in common with these women and why would I even stop to read their blogs. Then I realized that in real life I am surrounded by young women from the college my daughter goes to and I talk to them and they call me mom. One calls me her 'mom way from home'. I like that. My daughter is very close to this girls mom and when she visits there she says the same thing to her mother. I enjoy those talks. From what I read in some of the blogs, these young women had the same problems I did when I was their age.
My circle of friends in real life is wide. I have some in their eighties or close to it and I have some in their teens. Late teens. Friendships know no age or color as far as I am concerned.
Will these girls respond? I don't know but it is fun visiting their blogs and posting to them there.
My circle of friends in real life is wide. I have some in their eighties or close to it and I have some in their teens. Late teens. Friendships know no age or color as far as I am concerned.
Will these girls respond? I don't know but it is fun visiting their blogs and posting to them there.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Tater tots
As of now, Tater tots is the youngest of our cats. He has this spot at the top of the stairs where he likes to lay. He is there almost all the time. I have to be careful that I don't fall over him. He is such a sweetie. My eldest got him a few months ago but she did not want him so I said I would take him til we found a home. He is the sweetest kitten. As it turned out my youngest and her friend are moving into their own apt this summer and she wants the cat.
So, tater tots has a home now and he is one of those cats that loves to be held and played with. A wonderful personality.
Tuesday, January 24, 2006
Gay Parents...
I may get flack for this but it is something I have thought of for some time since one of my friends who is very prejudice against gays has made the statement that gays should not be allowed to adopt children.
I was raised in the foster care system. I know what it is like not to have your mom tuck you in at night or cry with you when you are hurt. No father to toss me in the air and call me his little girl or tease me about boys and such. I know what it is like not to be in a loving, nurturing environment.
Luckily, after being in an orphanage for several months and being tossed around the foster care circuit for three years, I was placed in a the home of a loving woman. No, she was not a lesbian but I wanted love so badly, I don't think it would have mattered to me. I just wanted to be part of a family of some sort. I think that is what most kids want.
I remember a little boy I had here one time. His biggest fear was that he was going to wake up and find himself in another home. I explained to him that would not happen until he went back with his mom. That fear of him being rejected by us stayed with him a long time. He finally did go back to his mom and after being with her a month he was put back into a foster home and adopted out.
Now, I know we have a shortage of parents willing to adopt these kids. But wouldn't it have been better for him to be adopted by a loving gay couple rather then go back to a mom who abused him in so many ways?
Of course there are going to be those who say gays live an immoral lifestyle but I am not talking about their lifestyle. If what they do is wrong in God's eyes, he will take care of that. But all the people out there getting divorced, cheating on their spouses and such, how can we say who is morally able to raise a child?
If there were more homes available to these kids, you would not have so many being killed by their natural parents after the state places them back into the very environment they came out of.
I was raised in the foster care system. I know what it is like not to have your mom tuck you in at night or cry with you when you are hurt. No father to toss me in the air and call me his little girl or tease me about boys and such. I know what it is like not to be in a loving, nurturing environment.
Luckily, after being in an orphanage for several months and being tossed around the foster care circuit for three years, I was placed in a the home of a loving woman. No, she was not a lesbian but I wanted love so badly, I don't think it would have mattered to me. I just wanted to be part of a family of some sort. I think that is what most kids want.
I remember a little boy I had here one time. His biggest fear was that he was going to wake up and find himself in another home. I explained to him that would not happen until he went back with his mom. That fear of him being rejected by us stayed with him a long time. He finally did go back to his mom and after being with her a month he was put back into a foster home and adopted out.
Now, I know we have a shortage of parents willing to adopt these kids. But wouldn't it have been better for him to be adopted by a loving gay couple rather then go back to a mom who abused him in so many ways?
Of course there are going to be those who say gays live an immoral lifestyle but I am not talking about their lifestyle. If what they do is wrong in God's eyes, he will take care of that. But all the people out there getting divorced, cheating on their spouses and such, how can we say who is morally able to raise a child?
If there were more homes available to these kids, you would not have so many being killed by their natural parents after the state places them back into the very environment they came out of.
Monday, January 23, 2006
What happened today....
It has been one of those strange days. VEry odd one where you are anxious and not sure why. Not only that but my muscle went out in my back and I have been miserable for three days and finally went to the drs today to get some meds for it. I was in a wreck in 198o and threw my back out and have had some muscles torn back there so it does give me fits every so often.
Well, my daugther called and she wanted us to meet with her. Some of you know about our problems with her if you have followed the blog. I did not know what to expect. So we met her at Arbys. Apparently the people she is living with take in homeless people like her and try to help them. She was not homeless because of us. She just wants to live on her own and is not capable of managing anything such as money. These people seem to care about her and they encourged her to meet with us. They are helping her in many ways by keeping her busy and they will not allow her to bring in some of the negative people that were in her life before. That was encourging. I told the woman I wished her all the luck and I hoped she could help my daughter. You who have kids know they will listen to others rather than their parents. I feel more at ease about her situation now.
God does answer prayer.
Well, my daugther called and she wanted us to meet with her. Some of you know about our problems with her if you have followed the blog. I did not know what to expect. So we met her at Arbys. Apparently the people she is living with take in homeless people like her and try to help them. She was not homeless because of us. She just wants to live on her own and is not capable of managing anything such as money. These people seem to care about her and they encourged her to meet with us. They are helping her in many ways by keeping her busy and they will not allow her to bring in some of the negative people that were in her life before. That was encourging. I told the woman I wished her all the luck and I hoped she could help my daughter. You who have kids know they will listen to others rather than their parents. I feel more at ease about her situation now.
God does answer prayer.
Thursday, January 19, 2006
Other blogs
I wonder how many of you have blogs on other sites and do you compare them to this site? If so, how does this site compare to them?
I have one on Myspace where I rarely visit and each time I do, it is like I never left cause so much of it stays the same. But I still blog there occasionally and surf the blocs there. I find it is more for the younger generation though. I also have one on live journal. I go there if I am interested in discussing my hobbies. That is not often either.
I like this place better because of diversity. The age group does not seem to matter as much either. Bloggers here of all ages seem to accept me. The only thing I do not care for is the fact that they do not have a way of finding bloggers with certain interest the way line journal does. But think of what I would miss if I came on and only went to where the writers, photographers and quilters blogged. I think I would miss out on so much more.
If I had not gone wondering, I never would have found some of the ones who are my favorites. I will not say who they are cause I enjoy reading all the blogs on here. And I am thankful to all of you who come to read mine.
I have one on Myspace where I rarely visit and each time I do, it is like I never left cause so much of it stays the same. But I still blog there occasionally and surf the blocs there. I find it is more for the younger generation though. I also have one on live journal. I go there if I am interested in discussing my hobbies. That is not often either.
I like this place better because of diversity. The age group does not seem to matter as much either. Bloggers here of all ages seem to accept me. The only thing I do not care for is the fact that they do not have a way of finding bloggers with certain interest the way line journal does. But think of what I would miss if I came on and only went to where the writers, photographers and quilters blogged. I think I would miss out on so much more.
If I had not gone wondering, I never would have found some of the ones who are my favorites. I will not say who they are cause I enjoy reading all the blogs on here. And I am thankful to all of you who come to read mine.
15 things to do at walmart
15 Things to do at Walmart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time:
1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in peoples carts when they aren't looking.
2. Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals.
3. Make a trail of tomato juice on the floor leading to the rest rooms.
4. Walk up to an employee and tell them "Code 3 in Housewares" and see what they do.
5. Go to the Service Desk and ask to put a bag of M&M's on lay away.
6. Move a 'CAUTION - WET FLOOR' sign to a carpeted area.
7. Set up a tent in the camping department and tell other shoppers you'll invite them in if they'll bring pillows from the bedding department.
8. When a clerk asks if they can help you, begin to cry and ask, "Why can't you people just leave me alone?"
9. Look right into the security camera, use it as a mirror, and pick your nose.
10. While handling guns in the hunting department, ask the clerk if he knows where the antidepressants are.
11. Dart around the store suspiciously loudly humming the "Mission Impossible" theme.
12. In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.
13. Hide in a clothing rack and when people browse through, say "PICK ME!"
14. When an announcement comes over the loud speaker, assume the fetal position and scream "NO! NO! It's those voices again!!" And, last, but not least!
15. Go into a fitting room, shut the door and wait awhile; and then yell, very loudly, "There is no toilet paper in here
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1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in peoples carts when they aren't looking.
2. Set all the alarm clocks in Housewares to go off at 5-minute intervals.
3. Make a trail of tomato juice on the floor leading to the rest rooms.
4. Walk up to an employee and tell them "Code 3 in Housewares" and see what they do.
5. Go to the Service Desk and ask to put a bag of M&M's on lay away.
6. Move a 'CAUTION - WET FLOOR' sign to a carpeted area.
7. Set up a tent in the camping department and tell other shoppers you'll invite them in if they'll bring pillows from the bedding department.
8. When a clerk asks if they can help you, begin to cry and ask, "Why can't you people just leave me alone?"
9. Look right into the security camera, use it as a mirror, and pick your nose.
10. While handling guns in the hunting department, ask the clerk if he knows where the antidepressants are.
11. Dart around the store suspiciously loudly humming the "Mission Impossible" theme.
12. In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.
13. Hide in a clothing rack and when people browse through, say "PICK ME!"
14. When an announcement comes over the loud speaker, assume the fetal position and scream "NO! NO! It's those voices again!!" And, last, but not least!
15. Go into a fitting room, shut the door and wait awhile; and then yell, very loudly, "There is no toilet paper in here
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Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Live life like you were dying....
A chatter from a room I often go into asked me what I would do if I knew I was going to die in a few months....I wrote, 'Tommy: I would make things right with my family and anyone else I may have wronged as well as make things right with God then I would do all that things I have wanted to do as long as money allowed it. '
He wrote...Then start today. Start living like you were dying. Start trying to make things right, the way YOU want them to be. Even if things don't work out, at least you will be able to rest in peace knowing that you tried. One day, we will all die. You. Me. All of us. '
I try to do that. The older I get the more I realize there are people I may not see 'tomorrow' so I try to treat them as I want to be treated and while I have never been one to use the 'I love yous' loosely, I find myself saying it more and more when someone I care about goes to sleep or out the door. I want to have good memories of them and try and not think of all the bad things that may have happened in out pasts. I know there are some people that I can never do this with. They will not allow it and too much pain and bitterness have happened between us in the past.
He said: ''I was in my early forties, ''With a lot of life before me, ''An' a moment came that stopped me on a dime. ''I spent most of the next days, ''Looking at the x-rays, ''An' talking 'bout the options an' talkin’ ‘bout sweet time.'' I asked him when it sank in, That this might really be the real end? How’s it hit you when you get that kind of news? Man whatcha do?
An' he said: ''I went sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
He said ''I was finally the husband, ''That most the time I wasn’t. ''An' I became a friend a friend would like to have. ''And all of a sudden goin' fishin’, ''Wasn’t such an imposition, ''And I went three times that year I lost my Dad. ''Well, I finally read the Good Book, ''And I took a good long hard look, ''At what I'd do if I could do it all again, ''And then:
''I went sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
Like tomorrow was a gift, And you got eternity, To think about what you’d do with it. An' what did you do with it? An' what can I do with it? An' what would I do with it?
''Sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And then I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I watched Blue Eagle as it was flyin'.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.''
That song pretty much says it all for me.
He wrote...Then start today. Start living like you were dying. Start trying to make things right, the way YOU want them to be. Even if things don't work out, at least you will be able to rest in peace knowing that you tried. One day, we will all die. You. Me. All of us. '
I try to do that. The older I get the more I realize there are people I may not see 'tomorrow' so I try to treat them as I want to be treated and while I have never been one to use the 'I love yous' loosely, I find myself saying it more and more when someone I care about goes to sleep or out the door. I want to have good memories of them and try and not think of all the bad things that may have happened in out pasts. I know there are some people that I can never do this with. They will not allow it and too much pain and bitterness have happened between us in the past.
He said: ''I was in my early forties, ''With a lot of life before me, ''An' a moment came that stopped me on a dime. ''I spent most of the next days, ''Looking at the x-rays, ''An' talking 'bout the options an' talkin’ ‘bout sweet time.'' I asked him when it sank in, That this might really be the real end? How’s it hit you when you get that kind of news? Man whatcha do?
An' he said: ''I went sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
He said ''I was finally the husband, ''That most the time I wasn’t. ''An' I became a friend a friend would like to have. ''And all of a sudden goin' fishin’, ''Wasn’t such an imposition, ''And I went three times that year I lost my Dad. ''Well, I finally read the Good Book, ''And I took a good long hard look, ''At what I'd do if I could do it all again, ''And then:
''I went sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I gave forgiveness I'd been denying.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
Like tomorrow was a gift, And you got eternity, To think about what you’d do with it. An' what did you do with it? An' what can I do with it? An' what would I do with it?
''Sky diving, I went rocky mountain climbing, ''I went two point seven seconds on a bull named Fu Man Chu. ''And then I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter, ''And I watched Blue Eagle as it was flyin'.'' An' he said: ''Some day, I hope you get the chance, ''To live like you were dyin'.''
''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.'' ''To live like you were dyin'.''
That song pretty much says it all for me.
Monday, January 16, 2006
It's better now.............
Those of you who have been reading my blog for a few months know of the troubles with my eldest and why things are the way they are. She came to get some of her things tonight and it was all very cordial. I have her on my yahoo list so I can reach her that way if she is on the computer but I really want to get her a cell phone. I talked it over with hubby and we are going to get one of those pay as you go phones for her.
She has a real credit problem and refuses to pay bills so I am taking over as her payee and paying the bills for her. I want to keep the lines of communication open for her so she knows that no matter what, she has a family and a place to come to if she needs us. We cannot do that if we are constantly fighting with her. I know the time will come when she will need us again and I will be there for her. That is what being a mom is about. I feel better now that I know she is okay and we are back on speaking terms.
I can sleep now.
She has a real credit problem and refuses to pay bills so I am taking over as her payee and paying the bills for her. I want to keep the lines of communication open for her so she knows that no matter what, she has a family and a place to come to if she needs us. We cannot do that if we are constantly fighting with her. I know the time will come when she will need us again and I will be there for her. That is what being a mom is about. I feel better now that I know she is okay and we are back on speaking terms.
I can sleep now.
Saturday, January 14, 2006
If you could.........
http://www.boonehallplantation.com/images/page_image05.jpg I always felt that if I could live in any time period, it would be in the south on one of those magnificant plantations. I felt that way when I went to see the magnficant Boone Hill Plantation in south Carolina with its magnificant oaks that line the drive which is about a mile long before you come to the main gate. They line both sides of the drive and if you have seen the series, North and South, you would have seen that drive several times as well as the front of this beautiful plantation. It has a lovely working farm which is still in existance and a stable as well as a breathtakingly beautiful flower garden. I felt like a regal queen as I sat on the veranda with my daugthers and watched the guides in their period style long dresses walk about the mansion talk about it.
I could pretend I was the lady of the house. I could walk about those lovely gardens with my husband by my side. It would all be so wonderful....
But reality struck when we stepped inside the slave cabins. The look in my daughters face tells how we all felt in that deep dark, dank surroundings that resembles more of a cave then a kitchen. Yes, it was one room where the whole family lived and slept but you could tell it was a kitchen because of the iron kettle that in the corner over the fireplace in that room.
Until that point it all seemed like such a romantic time. But when you think of how some had to live, there was nothing 'romantic' about it at all.
Friday, January 13, 2006
Darned dog owners....
People that live across the road from us have a Jack Russell terrier very much like the one catching this frisbee. Apparently these people did not do any reasearch on the dog breed before they bought her. These are some things you have to know in order to be a good 'parent' to a Jack Russell.
Remember that while it looks like a small dog, you essentially have a 130-pound dog in that body. These dogs are extremely intelligent, very bold and have no sense of their small stature.
Be prepared to enjoy a good 15 years with your Jack Russell, as this is the average life expectancy for a Jack Russell Terrier.
: keep your Jack Russell in a secure yard ' this dog can dig under and jump over 5-foot fences. Don't underestimate the escape skills of this terrier. If it sees something it wants to chase, it will do everything it can to go after it.
Make sure you or someone in your home is willing to spend at least 60 minutes a day playing with and exercising the dog.
Keep a roll of tape handy; the Jack sheds constantly, and a vacuum will get some, but not all of the coarse hairs.
These people are gone for 12-14 hours a day because they work at a job that is a 2 hour drive and often work til well past dark. The dog is tied up all day long. Anyone who knows about these dogs know you have to walk them about an hour a day and play with them alot. They come home, let the dog loose and it runs where it wants to and they have said she is now a nipper and has nipped people. When these dogs are not trained, they can be little hellions. This dog would make a great pet for responsible owners who abide by the rule of keeping it in a secure yard or the house. We try to catch this dog for them as she is a sweetie and I don't want her getting hit but she is a real escape artist.
Our dogs are constantly barking at her and the neighbors on the other side are the ones who I think may take drastic action and shoot the dog if given the chance and I don't want to see that happen.
It irks me that those who love doges do not take time to learn about the breed and what all it takes to take care of those kind of dogs. They make wonderful pets if properly taken care of.
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Missionary Man
My husbands favorite radio station is one called BOB in the Pittsburgh area. It plays all theses songs that you do not normally hear on radio stations now. Not just oldies but new ones too. Well they played this song Missionary Man which I loved and I asked my husband who sang it. He kept saying wait and they will tell you who sang it. So I waited....And I waited some more. They did not tell me. I guess I was supposed to sit and guess who the singers were and that makes me quite perturbed at times.
Three days later and I still do not know so I decide to google it. It is by the EURYTHMICS and these are the lyrics..
Well I was born an original sinner.I was borne from original sin.
And if I had a dollar billFor all the things I’ve done
There’d be a mountain of moneyPiled up to my chin...
My mother told me good
My mother told me strong.
She said be true to yourself
And you can’t go wrong.
But there’s just one thing
That you must understand.
You can fool with your brother
-But don’t mess with a missionary man.
Don’t mess with a missionary man.
Don’t mess with a missionary man.
Well the missionary manHe’s got God on his side.
He’s got the saints and apostles
Backin’ up from behind.
Black eyed looks from those Bible books.
He’s a man with a missionGot a serious mind.
There was a woman in the jungle
And a monkey on a tree.
The missionary man he was followin’ me.
He said stop what you’re doing.
Get down upon your knees.
I’ve got a message for you that you better believe.(chorus repeats...)
Three days later and I still do not know so I decide to google it. It is by the EURYTHMICS and these are the lyrics..
Well I was born an original sinner.I was borne from original sin.
And if I had a dollar billFor all the things I’ve done
There’d be a mountain of moneyPiled up to my chin...
My mother told me good
My mother told me strong.
She said be true to yourself
And you can’t go wrong.
But there’s just one thing
That you must understand.
You can fool with your brother
-But don’t mess with a missionary man.
Don’t mess with a missionary man.
Don’t mess with a missionary man.
Well the missionary manHe’s got God on his side.
He’s got the saints and apostles
Backin’ up from behind.
Black eyed looks from those Bible books.
He’s a man with a missionGot a serious mind.
There was a woman in the jungle
And a monkey on a tree.
The missionary man he was followin’ me.
He said stop what you’re doing.
Get down upon your knees.
I’ve got a message for you that you better believe.(chorus repeats...)
Thursday, January 12, 2006
Womens rights and abortion...
What does abortions have to do with women's rights I wondered as I listened to two women discuss the abortions rights issue. I would never have an abortion. I did think of it at one time but I would never ever have gone thru with it. I was at a very low point in my life were I felt I had no other alternative but there is always another way out of things. I did not have to make that choice as it was taken from me when I miscarried oh, so many years ago.
I would not. Could not. But can I make that choice for another woman? I have talked to young women who were thinking of it and told them the the wonders of being and a mother of adopted children and how wonderful it was when I was finally able to adopt the two I had. I would like to see more young woman make that choice rather then to have them chose to abort the baby.
My heart was broken yesterday when I was talking to a woman who had three abortions. She is really heartbroken over the choice she made. All I could do was listen to her and sympathize with the pain she was feeling. No matter what decsion someone makes in life, there are reprocussions for it. All I kept thinking, you made the choice. You have to live with it. I thought it but would not say it. She was hurting enough.
I think when we are young and in some stressful situations, we never really think past the present. We think only of today and what it going on now and how painful it is that that the babys father no longer loves us, or we no longer love him, or our education is messed up and our parents will be so disapponted in us. We never think of the future.
The day I was standing on top the bridge wondering if I should jump or have the baby, I was not thinking, hey this will all be over in a few months. Or, God will take care of this. I just have to trust Him. No, I was just thinking, I am preggers, my life is over and no one loves me..blah, blah blah......
I believe in the thought that women should chose but I would love to be able to find a way for fewer women to feel they have to make the choice to abort.
Now, where did I put that magic wand????
I would not. Could not. But can I make that choice for another woman? I have talked to young women who were thinking of it and told them the the wonders of being and a mother of adopted children and how wonderful it was when I was finally able to adopt the two I had. I would like to see more young woman make that choice rather then to have them chose to abort the baby.
My heart was broken yesterday when I was talking to a woman who had three abortions. She is really heartbroken over the choice she made. All I could do was listen to her and sympathize with the pain she was feeling. No matter what decsion someone makes in life, there are reprocussions for it. All I kept thinking, you made the choice. You have to live with it. I thought it but would not say it. She was hurting enough.
I think when we are young and in some stressful situations, we never really think past the present. We think only of today and what it going on now and how painful it is that that the babys father no longer loves us, or we no longer love him, or our education is messed up and our parents will be so disapponted in us. We never think of the future.
The day I was standing on top the bridge wondering if I should jump or have the baby, I was not thinking, hey this will all be over in a few months. Or, God will take care of this. I just have to trust Him. No, I was just thinking, I am preggers, my life is over and no one loves me..blah, blah blah......
I believe in the thought that women should chose but I would love to be able to find a way for fewer women to feel they have to make the choice to abort.
Now, where did I put that magic wand????
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Am I depressed?
I cannot decide if I am depressed over the fact that my daughter hooked up with a couple she just met and is not coming back home tonight or not. I am so used to her leaving with people she leaves on the net, I just start playing it by ear. I worry. Really worry about her falling in with the wrong people but there is so little I can do about it.
She is basically a good person but she is so gullible and people use her. It saddens me. She wants so much to be what she calls 'normal'. She wants to be accepted but some of the things she does is very damaging. I pray for her alot.
So I will just wait for her to call and tell me to come and get her again. And I will get her if that is what I need to do to help her.
She is basically a good person but she is so gullible and people use her. It saddens me. She wants so much to be what she calls 'normal'. She wants to be accepted but some of the things she does is very damaging. I pray for her alot.
So I will just wait for her to call and tell me to come and get her again. And I will get her if that is what I need to do to help her.
Monday, January 09, 2006
Bathroom Signs
Bathroom Signs
Friends don't let friends take home ugly menWomen's restroom Starboard, Dewey Beach, DE
Beauty is only a light switch away.Perkins Library, Duke University, Durham, NC
If life is a waste of time,and time is a waste of life,then let's all get wasted togetherand have the time of our lives.Armand's Pizza, Washington, DC
Remember, it's not,"How high are you?"it's"Hi, how are you?" Rest stop off Route 81, West Virginia
Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity. The Bayou, Baton Rouge, LO
No matter how good she looks, some other guy is sick and tiredof putting up with her shit. Men's Room Linda's Bar and Grill, Chapel Hill, NC
At the feast of egoeveryone leaves hungry. Bentley's House of Coffee and Tea, Tucson, AZ
It's hard to make a comeback when you haven't been anywhere. Written in the dust on the back of a bus, Wickenburg, AZ
Make love, not war.. -Hell, do bothGET MARRIED! Women's restroom The Filling Station, Bozeman, MT
If voting could really change things, it would be illegal. Revolution Books New York, New York.
If pro is opposite of con,then what is the opposite of progress? Congress! Men's Restroom The House of Representatives Washington DC
Express Lane: Five beers or less Sign over one of the urinals Ed Debevic's, Phoenix, AZ
You're too good for him. Sign over mirror in Women's restroom Ed Debevic's, Beverly Hills,CA.
No wonder you always go home alone. Sign over mirror in Men's restroom, Ed Debevic's, Beverly Hills,CA
and my favorite, and most realistic one ~~~
A Woman's Rule of Thumb: If it has tires or testicles, You're going to have trouble with it. Women's restroom Dick's Last Resort, Dallas, TX
Friends don't let friends take home ugly menWomen's restroom Starboard, Dewey Beach, DE
Beauty is only a light switch away.Perkins Library, Duke University, Durham, NC
If life is a waste of time,and time is a waste of life,then let's all get wasted togetherand have the time of our lives.Armand's Pizza, Washington, DC
Remember, it's not,"How high are you?"it's"Hi, how are you?" Rest stop off Route 81, West Virginia
Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity. The Bayou, Baton Rouge, LO
No matter how good she looks, some other guy is sick and tiredof putting up with her shit. Men's Room Linda's Bar and Grill, Chapel Hill, NC
At the feast of egoeveryone leaves hungry. Bentley's House of Coffee and Tea, Tucson, AZ
It's hard to make a comeback when you haven't been anywhere. Written in the dust on the back of a bus, Wickenburg, AZ
Make love, not war.. -Hell, do bothGET MARRIED! Women's restroom The Filling Station, Bozeman, MT
If voting could really change things, it would be illegal. Revolution Books New York, New York.
If pro is opposite of con,then what is the opposite of progress? Congress! Men's Restroom The House of Representatives Washington DC
Express Lane: Five beers or less Sign over one of the urinals Ed Debevic's, Phoenix, AZ
You're too good for him. Sign over mirror in Women's restroom Ed Debevic's, Beverly Hills,CA.
No wonder you always go home alone. Sign over mirror in Men's restroom, Ed Debevic's, Beverly Hills,CA
and my favorite, and most realistic one ~~~
A Woman's Rule of Thumb: If it has tires or testicles, You're going to have trouble with it. Women's restroom Dick's Last Resort, Dallas, TX
Sunday, January 08, 2006
Life's Lesssons
Lessons on Life
here was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.
When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.
The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.
The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.
The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.
The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.
He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.
If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
Moral lessons: Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.
Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come sometime or later
here was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.
When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen.
The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.
The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.
The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.
The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.
He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.
If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
Moral lessons: Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.
Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come sometime or later
Friday, January 06, 2006
Still not done....
I came in with the sole intention of working on this blog but got side tracked for now. I will get it done...I will get it done...I wi-----well, ya'll git my drift, I'm sure. *s*
Thursday, January 05, 2006
Notes left behind......
While listening to the news talk about the miners at sago mine and how they spent their last few hours on earth, thinking of their families and writing farewell letters to them. (this is a tradition among miners who are trapped.* I wondered what kind of letters many of us would write to those who we left behind. Would we write letters filled with fear and anger or would we write letters filled with love and laughter for those we leave behind.
I know there are a few I would like to send a final *kiss my ass letter to* but I doubt I would be thinking of them if it were my last day on earth.
My husbands would be filled with love and memories of all the things we did in our past and things I would like to do in the future we would never have and encourage him to go out and do those things with someone else who he might find to fill the void in his life. I would remind him of the honeymoon we didn't really have until we were married several months and how great it was when we finally did. I would want him to think of all the funny crazy things we did and laugh about the time the dog buried my pie dough cause it was so tough he thought it was a bone. About the fishing trips we went on together and how I fell into the creek. Anything to make him smile and think of me with love.
To my eldest I would try and find something to make her feel as though she had not caused it all. She is the type who likes to think the world revolves around her and it is all her fault, no matter if it is or not. She has often told me she yearns for the day I die and I have told her she would regret the day she has said those things. But she is mentally ill and I do not actually hold her responsible for many of the things she says. When she is on her meds, she is fantaistic. Full of love and a great person. I want her to remember that I loved her thru it all.
To my youngest, I would want her to laugh. She loves a good joke and I would remind her of all the long walks and talks we had while she was a young teen. Then I would remind her that no matter what she chose to do in life I would love her as long as she was happy with her chosen profession.
To my mother in law, I would thank her for being the best mil a woman could have. A best friend and confident. I love her totally. I have since the day her son introduced her and her husband to me. I loved him like a father til the day he died and I love her too. I was blessed by this family I married into.
I know there are a few I would like to send a final *kiss my ass letter to* but I doubt I would be thinking of them if it were my last day on earth.
My husbands would be filled with love and memories of all the things we did in our past and things I would like to do in the future we would never have and encourage him to go out and do those things with someone else who he might find to fill the void in his life. I would remind him of the honeymoon we didn't really have until we were married several months and how great it was when we finally did. I would want him to think of all the funny crazy things we did and laugh about the time the dog buried my pie dough cause it was so tough he thought it was a bone. About the fishing trips we went on together and how I fell into the creek. Anything to make him smile and think of me with love.
To my eldest I would try and find something to make her feel as though she had not caused it all. She is the type who likes to think the world revolves around her and it is all her fault, no matter if it is or not. She has often told me she yearns for the day I die and I have told her she would regret the day she has said those things. But she is mentally ill and I do not actually hold her responsible for many of the things she says. When she is on her meds, she is fantaistic. Full of love and a great person. I want her to remember that I loved her thru it all.
To my youngest, I would want her to laugh. She loves a good joke and I would remind her of all the long walks and talks we had while she was a young teen. Then I would remind her that no matter what she chose to do in life I would love her as long as she was happy with her chosen profession.
To my mother in law, I would thank her for being the best mil a woman could have. A best friend and confident. I love her totally. I have since the day her son introduced her and her husband to me. I loved him like a father til the day he died and I love her too. I was blessed by this family I married into.
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Farther along.....
I just turned on the news and saw where the families of the miners were singing Farther Along.
Farther Along
Farther along we'll know more about it Farther along we'll understand why Cheer up my brother live in the sunshine We'll understand it all by and by
Tempted and tried will oft make you wonder
Why it should be thus all the day long
While there are others living about us
Never molested though in the wrong
When death has found and taken our loved ones
Leaving our home so lonely and dreary
Then do we wonder why others prosper
Living so wicked year after year
I like to belive that we will understand it all some day but I wonder if we truly ever will. This was my grandfathers favorite song. He too was a miner and I often think only those of us who have had loved ones working in this field have a clue as to how dangerous it is and how little some of the owners of these mind think of the men they hire to work under the ground. This mine had so many safety violations against it. Far too many. It should have been closed a long time ago.
Farther Along
Farther along we'll know more about it Farther along we'll understand why Cheer up my brother live in the sunshine We'll understand it all by and by
Tempted and tried will oft make you wonder
Why it should be thus all the day long
While there are others living about us
Never molested though in the wrong
When death has found and taken our loved ones
Leaving our home so lonely and dreary
Then do we wonder why others prosper
Living so wicked year after year
I like to belive that we will understand it all some day but I wonder if we truly ever will. This was my grandfathers favorite song. He too was a miner and I often think only those of us who have had loved ones working in this field have a clue as to how dangerous it is and how little some of the owners of these mind think of the men they hire to work under the ground. This mine had so many safety violations against it. Far too many. It should have been closed a long time ago.
A Dog's Philosophy
1. The reason a dog has so many friends is that his tail wags instead of his tongue...anonymous.
2.Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful..Ann Landers
3.If there are no dogs in Heaven, then when I die I want to go where they went.-Will Rogers
4. There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.-Ben Williams
5. A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loveshimself.-Josh Billings
6. The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.-Andy Rooney
7. We give dogs time we can spare, space we can spare and love we can spare. And in return, dogs give us their all. It's the best deal man has ever made.-M. Acklam
8. Dogs love their friends and bite their enemies, quite unlike people, who are incapable of pure love and always have to mix love and hate.-Sigmund Freud
9. I wonder if other dogs think poodles are members of a weird religious cult.-Rita Rudner
10. A dog teaches a boy fidelity, perseverance, and to turn around threetimes before lying down.-Robert Benchley
11. Anybody who doesn't know what soap tastes like never washed a dog.-Franklin P. Jones
12. If your dog is fat, you aren't getting enough exercise. (OOPS!! I was wondering about that)-UnknownMy dog is worried about the economy because Alpo is up to $3.00 a can. That's almost $21.00 in dog money.-Joe Weinstein
13. Ever consider what our dogs must think of us? I mean, here we come back from a grocery store with the most amazing haul -- chicken, pork, half a cow. They must think we're the greatest hunters on earth!-Anne Tyler
14. Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.-Robert A. Heinlein
15. If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the principal difference between a dog and a man.-Mark Twain
16. You can say any foolish thing to a dog, and the dog will give you a look that says, 'Wow, you're right! I never would've thought of that!'- Dave Barry\
17. Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.-Roger Caras
18. If you think dogs can't count, try putting three dog biscuits in yourpocket and then give him only two of them.-Phil Pastoret
Monday, January 02, 2006
Why do I love to quilt?
I love to quilt. I have been doing it for about five years. Each time I make a quilt for someone, I try to think of what personality type they are. This one was made for my niece. She loves everything modern and does not seem to be too fond of the old fashioned stuff so I did not want her to have a traditional design. This is a geometric design that I created.
It is the idea that I can take pieces of material and create something that another person may like. I make up my own designs because I think each person is unique and the quilts I make for them should be unique. I am still amazed that I can take the scraps and make something out of them. I fret and worry over each quilt until it is done. I always see flaws in them and I worried until I read a book on amish quilting and it said that they will often put small flaws in their quilts because they believe no one is perfect and quilts should not be perfect. When I look at it that way, I worry less about those small flaws.
Sunday, January 01, 2006
Beauty in the ugliness of winter....
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